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How I reset my energy...
and not obsess over getting it right.
1. Affirmations and hypnotherapy.
Whenever I get up in my head about worries or feel a surge of nervous energy, such as I have to do this now! when it’s not time yet — I turn on affirmations to reset my subconscious mind. Plenty of money was spent in therapy to figure out the primary motivations of thoughts/actions but that only goes so far. My subconscious mind plays out beliefs that were ingrained from childhood and previous lives. Now it’s time to provide an upgraded way of thinking. Hypnotherapy with a trained therapist can give amazing insights but I’ve found that affirmations work just as well.
At times I can get lazy with media consumption — oh that wicked, delicious Twitter! — but my conscience gently reminds me that what is being hear/viewed is recorded by my subconscious mind, who then searches for evidence in the outer world of what was just learned. So if I’m listening to lyrics that say my heart’s broken or they done me wrong or articles that trend in one direction or another but have divisiveness at its core — then things in my life will reflect such choices.
Out of all the things I could read/listen, why do my eyes search ____ out?
Inside = outside.
I also like to test affirmations to see whether any of this shit is real. For example, random money affirmations on YT ran in the background yesterday for about an hour. You can do this with any topic (money, love, gratitude, health, focus, intuition, issues with kids, etc). Make it simple. I choose one and change to another if annoyed or it is filled with ads. At times I said, yes, girl when one affirmation hit particular well — but didn’t obsess over missing words. My powerful subconscious hears it all, anyway.
It ended up being the best day of the month, so far. Coincidence?
2. When I practice being patient and gentle with myself, worries decrease.
Perhaps the parents I chose in this lifetime reflect a pattern of my own behavior in past lives. All thing are possible on the maybe table. One parent was patient, positive and emotionally distant; the other, impatient, demanding and selfish. Both were uber religious. All of these characteristics shaped aspects of my personality, yet as an autonomous being, it’s my responsibility to improve what seems like emotional deficits.
If you’ve been raised by similar parents, this book is very helpful.
As a soul, I’m perfect in my ever-evolving ways — but as Raven, she has more to learn. There is no end, there is no getting it right. Life on Earth is experience.
That’s why I chose juvenile parents. To learn to be patient and gentle as I put aside behaviors that are not helpful in my new self-expression. I’m not them. I don’t have to act like they did or believe as they wished me to. I am my own being.
3. Patience, not irritation.
Last night, I spilled the cat’s water bowl all over the bedroom and was proud of my reaction. No cursing or anger. Grabbed a towel and then went to sleep. It may seem small — but every time I do this, patience is imprinted rather than irritation/blame AND breaks an emotional pattern that was modeled over and over in childhood. Maybe that’s why I’m klutzy in this lifetime?
All of these resets matter. If indeed we travel into other experiences as a soul, we take these characteristics with us. What we learn here, right now, is not forgotten.
At least — I like to think so.
However, Raven is enough for now.
4. I pay careful attention to dreams, premonitions and continue to trust the signs.
As I’ve often said in books and over the course of my career, if you can’t trust yourself, save your money and don’t bother going to a psychic.
You don’t have to call yourself a healer or psychic or do what I do. However, you have been given the same abilities to nurture or ignore — because at the end of the day, all we have is ourselves. No one — and that includes spouse, therapist, advisor or closest friend — can perceive the same way you do. No one can live your life for you, at least not a person who doesn’t wish to control you — and even then, they can’t live it out!
It’s all you, babe.
I didn’t always trust myself — but to survive this world, I had to call upon an inner strength that I didn’t believe I had but called it “God” to guide me through the most treacherous times. Otherwise, I would be long gone from the experience of Raven.
That inner power continues to provide confidence in both worrisome and exciting times. My faith in that power has only grown, once I decided to stay here. I’ve learned to pay attention to the signs that arrive, even if I don’t always understand them.
It’s not magic. It’s patience and practice. It’s not giving up after confusing throws, incorrect pendulum swings or a crappy relationship. Things change every second — but easy to be derailed by an inner perfectionist!
That’s when tricksters sense an opening and arrive to control your life, if you let them. We can choose to be passive participants, buffeted by every opinion over how we “should” live — or trust ourselves through all experiences and be the full, beautiful beings that we are.
So much in society is focused on outer beauty and “daily steps”, yet the inner reflects the outer, not the other way around. When we consider ourselves in every decision, even ones that end up being “wrong” but provide endless learning — that when the inner/outer self come into harmony.
Trust every choice you make. It’s scary! But who else are you going to turn to? Who else lives in your heart and perception? You provide the fuel for your subconscious mind. If that’s too vague, call it something else. Inner wisdom. Higher knowledge. I know what I know gene.
You may choose to call it God/angels/ancestors/guides. That’s cool. However, that can also be a self-denying reliance on the other. I certainly am not dissuading prayer to whatever form of God/dess works for you. I view that as having silent partner — yet I’m the business. The one who notice the signs and then bases decisions on them. Not forcing an action or demanding an answer from an invisible being. Waiting, being still, checking in with my emotions.
As a young child, I was taught that the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer 17:9) — imagine that repetitive influence — and now must continue to replace all of the damage that religion has done to my psyche. I must do that without losing faith in myself — and my pure heart. That’s where affirmations come into play — patient and gentle — aware of the signs that arrive in the belief that only good comes to me.